By setting clear and consistent boundaries, parents can help their children develop self-discipline and self-control.

I have noticed that most parents don’t have control over their children. I see many children, some of whom are still in primary or elementary school, walking the streets at night. This shows that they are not restricted by their parents and are unaware of any limits.

Clear Expectations

Setting clear expectations and boundaries for children is essential for positive parenting. The first step in doing so is establishing a consistent routine. This will help children understand what to expect and when. It is important to be consistent in the routine that is set. For example, if bedtime is set at 9:00 p.m., it should be enforced every night and must be followed by elders too.

Age Appropriate Regulation

Regulations should be age-appropriate and consistent. Explain the consequences of not following the rules. Praise them when they follow the rules and expectations. Also, make clear the consequences for bad behaviour. This can be done by setting consequences for breaking rules or expectations. It is important to be consistent in delivering consequences.

Guide the Children

Guide and support the child by talking to them about their behaviour and helping them understand why it is important to follow the rules and expectations. Be consistent in providing guidance and support, and in enforcing the expectations and boundaries that are set. This will help children understand that rules and expectations are important and help them develop a sense of responsibility.

Setting clear expectations and boundaries for children is an important part of parenting. It helps children understand what is expected of them. Provides them with a safe environment in which they can learn and grow well.

Some bad habits of children are

Not listening to parents and elders
To lie
To delay
Not sharing things
Not following instructions
Don’t care about cleanliness
Not taking responsibility for their actions
Not brushing teeth regularly
Not being organized in their tasks and responsibilities
Not respecting others
Not being honest
Not being kind to siblings
Interrupting the conversation

Why Children Disobey

When dealing with disobedience in children, it is critical to understand the underlying causes of this behaviour. Children can be disobedient for a variety of reasons, including a lack of understanding, a desire for attention, a lack of boundaries, a lack of communication, unfulfilled desires, victimization by a bad group, and so on. This is often the case with growing-up children who do not have a strong attachment to their parents because their parents did not discipline them from the start. Before dealing with disobedience, it is critical to identify the source of the problem.

The following reasons can be for disobedience;

Lack of discipline at home
 Lack of strong bond between parents and children
Inappropriate response from parents, teachers or adults
The boredom of the child
Lack of consistency among parents, teachers or adults
Having unrealistic expectations of the child
 Putting the child under excessive stress
Not meeting the child’s needs

Once the root causes of disobedience are identified, it is important to establish clear rules and expectations that are age-appropriate and consistently enforced. Dealing with disobedience in children can be a difficult task, but it is possible by understanding the root causes of the behaviour, establishing clear rules and expectations, and providing positive reinforcement for following them.

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