Modelling good behaviour is one of the most important things a parent can do to help their children develop into responsible, caring, and successful adults.

It is easier to build strong children than to repair broken men.”

— Frederick Douglass

You must have noticed that when you get up for prayers, your two-year-old comes close to you and starts making signs of worship. A two-year-old toddler (child) does not know what this procedure is. Is it good or bad? What is the benefit of this? But s/he stands with you in worship because s/he sees you doing it every day. It is the nature of children to do what adults do. What parents do at home sends a powerful message to their children.

Parents are children’s first teachers. The child’s mind comes to them in the form of a blank paper, and they start writing on it through their words and actions. These are the daily routines that we do unconsciously and pass on to our unconscious, unconsciously. Parents usually continue to explain to the children by being a teacher and hoping that the children will follow their advice, but this is not the case. Children look up to adults and imitate them.

Our unconscious daily routines at home are what we unconsciously do and unconsciously pass on to our own unconscious.”

I Wish Every Parent Knew This-Dr. Afzal Badshah

In some homes, the environment is very bad. Especially in joint families. Often in the evening when everyone gets together, a tense situation is created. Sometimes there are quarrels and wrong words are used for each other. Children watch all this. Hate starts filling in their minds. And tomorrow, when these children grow up, they also create an atmosphere in their homes similar to what they have seen. If you have this type of environment in your home, take care to protect your children from this environment as soon as possible so that they do not copy and pass on these types of negative attitudes.

This environment is not limited to joint families, nor am I criticizing the joint family system. Even in a separated family, couples may have problems with each other and express them in front of children. Parents may use the wrong words and tone when talking on the phone. They may misbehave with staff. It is also possible that the child tries to imitate the negative environment outside the home where he plays. As a parent! It is your responsibility to protect your child from all these negative factors for a positive upbringing.

Everything you do once you enter the house, you are sending a message to the children.

I Wish Every Parent Knew This-Dr. Afzal Badshah

You must have heard the story of a teacher — The story is about a teacher who noticed a child coming to school with jaggery every day. He did not say anything to the child the first two days, but on the third day, he stopped the child and explained lovingly why he should not eat jaggery. The teacher explained that he had been eating jaggery himself for two days, so he was not in a position to train the child. The story is a reminder that we should not expect others to do something that we ourselves are not doing.

If your child is two years or older, do any activity on a daily basis. Make any task your routine but don’t ask the child to follow it. However, it is important that you do this in front of your child. An example is routine daily prayers. You will find that after a few days, your child will start doing the same activity with you.

Identify the parenting habits of yours that you find most helpful [In the comment, please].

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