As parents, it is important to remember that children copy what you do, not what you say.

Children have never been very good at listening to their elders, but they have never failed to imitate them

 — James Baldwin

Experts of communication skills say that when we talk to someone, the impact of our words is 7%, the impact of tone is 38% and the impact of our body postures and gestures is 55%. Our words don’t have that much power, but the way we speak, our body posture, and our facial expressions fill them with meaning.

Voice, body posture, and facial expressions are the actual communication. Remember that children are very sensitive to tone, so keep your tone, body posture, and facial expressions very polite to them, otherwise, they will use the same language outside that you do at home. Let’s see how a child imitates the tone of adults with an example.

There was a boy in school who consider himself a king. He used to misbehave with the children and even with the teachers. Once he even threatened a teacher that “I will see you outside the school”. When this matter was looked into in detail, it was found that the environment of his house was like this.

All the members of the house were kings without a crown. They neither know their own dignity, nor do they know how to respect others. A child growing up in this type of environment sees adults as having no boundaries in their lives. They talk to anyone in any tone and are proud of it. So, the child will necessarily imitate their habits, even if it has dangerous consequences tomorrow.

What happens is that the parents get angry with the children and in that anger, they yell at them. Remember! whenever you talk to a child in a bad way, they copy your behavior, not what you say. Talk to children the way you want them to hear you. If you keep talking to children in the same way, the distance between you and them will increase. They will start sharing their feelings, emotions, and experiences with you. If you want to keep the child with you always, you have to talk to them in a very polite tone.

Remember! whenever you talk to a child in a bad manner, they copy your behaviour, not what you say

I Wish Every Parent Knew This- Dr. Afzal Badshah

We raise children in an inherited manner that does not recognize their true worth. If the child does something wrong, we use hateful terms, abuse, and a curse. Despite the fact that we are doing all of this because we love our child. We’re actually expressing our affection. Actually, we’d like to say, “My child!” I am nothing without you; I adore you and wish you success. However, the child is listening and comprehending what you are saying with your mouth. As a result, address children with love and politeness, and use appropriate language.

Remember! A child today’s mistake is the result of your yesterday’s mistake

I Wish Every Parent Knew This- Dr. Afzal Badshah

Often parents complain to me about their children and that they do not listen to them. There were many who were afraid of their young children. I saw many children studying in the high section who were fine in the daily routine of the school but when their parents were called, their behaviour changed, and they started thinking of themselves as superior. In front of the teachers, they began to abuse the parents.

I will blame it all on the parents. They must have distanced themselves from their children from childhood, they must have adopted wrong parenting methods which created such a big gap between them. As a parent, you should never widen this gap, which is only possible if you are well-versed in child raising and psychology.

Identify your parenting habits that are harmful.

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